Let me breakdown Match for those who may not be aware with how the site works: You can sign up for a fee-of course-and subscribe for three or six months, or can sign up for longer. If you do not cancel your subscription it will automatically re-start. After entering in basic information about yourself, you can answer questions to a quiz that asks you the types of matches you prefer.
During the week you are sent matches that are suggested by the Match computer and you can either skip, email, talk or send them a “wink” to let them know you are interested. Also, and this kind of sucks, there is a ticker counter on your profile that lets you know the number of people that have looked at your profile. That whole being able to see who and the number of people that view your profile thing can either crush your ego, or inflate it by the way…
In the past two weeks I have received 38 e-mails, my profile has been viewed 416 times, been “winked” at 20+ times, and have sent 5 winks out to men. I have yet to receive a “wink” or e-mail from a man I am attracted to physically/personality wise. The matches that have been sent to me are literally based on the craziest “mutual interests”! Match.com will send 24 matches a few times per week and they will come with the tag line: ‘You both like dogs.’, ‘You both dig dining out.’ or, ‘Like you he’s not a smoker.’ Ummm…okay Match what the hell does that have to do with any damn thing in the long run? Outside of the smoking thing, which, for me is a NO. I don’t care how damn amazing you are, if you smoke, you have to quit, or I’m out, but I digress.
Here is the issue with the matches they are sending me…Match is clearly not looking at what the men are looking for in a match when it comes to race preferences. Almost every single match that Match.com has sent to me has chosen a preference for their match to be every other ethnicity but mine. In other words they don’t want to date a black woman. In all honesty, there is nothing wrong with that. Really, if you want to deny yourself the amazing, fabulous, wonderful, brown, cafe au lait, greatness…then sir, that is your mistake.
Also, its an issue I’ll never understand, nor will I try to figure out because it is what it is, and everyone has a preference right? Why Match does not factor that into their computer when they are sending me matches, I’ll never understand. Side note: Let me just say that by denying yourself a person based solely on the color of their skin is-in my opinion-a huge disservice to your heart. Love is love, and not dating someone only because the color of their skin does not match what you want is something that again, everyone is entitled to do, but I in no way agree with. Stepping off my soapbox…carry on…
Outside of that issue, I have received many amusing e-mails and they have been from men of all races. The majority of men contacting me are White men, next are Black and Asian/Latino men have as well, but are more sporadic. One e-mail read: ‘Sexy.’ that’s it. That is literally all he wrote. Then, there is the guy who wrote me four e-mails over the course of two days. Let’s just call him ‘The Smotherer’. He is an older man, white, 45 years old, has three adult kids, one that happens to be my age (33), and he e-mailed me saying he thought I was beautiful.
I responded by first saying thank you and asking him to tell me about himself…why did I do that you guys?! He responded once…I did not respond because I was busy…he sent another e-mail with his phone number attached…I did not respond…he e-mailed me again and again!! Needless to say, he has been deleted. The over saturation of e-mails without even giving me a chance to respond, immediately turned me off. Give me a chance to even show you I am interested before you start bombarding me with, well…you! Too much, too soon.